If you have read anything at all about premature ejaculation, you will know the cause of premature ejaculation (PE) is usually mental (psychological). You have probably read about methods of mind control, for example where you imagine something to turn you off, and make you last longer. There is no doubt that this can work on its own for some people, but there is actually more going on in your mind and body. If you read the rest of this page, you’ll discover the seven causes of Premature Ejaculation.
Before we start, let’s be clear: there are two main groups of men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Those who have had it since the first time they ever had sex, and those who developed it later in their sexual ‘career’. While it helps you understand your exact problem, it doesn’t matter that much which group you fall into, because both types are very treatable.
(Now there ARE a couple of physical conditions which can cause PE. These are withdrawal from alcohol or opiates (heroin, benzos, etc). So if you are going through this at the moment, you can be fairly sure it will right itself once you get through your withdrawal period.)
OK, so here are the causes, according to my research within medical journals and books:
1. Genetics
The basic purpose of sex is to reproduce. Men are hardwired to efficiently spread their seed, to carry on their genetic line. I mean literally – each man’s brain has an internal ejaculation timer. Your mind and body collude to make you come quickly. It’s kind of why it doesn’t take much to turn men on too.
2. Masturbation Habits
Nearly all men come quickly while jerking off. After all, this is one time you can focus on your own pleasure 100%. Some of us learn to back it off a bit, to prolong the experience. But some of us don’t. Unfortunately, in many cases this trains you to come quickly, even when you are with a hot, willing partner.
3. Hormones
Two hormones come into play while leading up to, and ejaculating: dopamine and serotonin. Yes, these are the same ones associated with happiness and depression. When these are screwed up, we can lose our sex drive. But when you have too much of one, and not enough of the other, it can really make it hard to last long in bed.
4. Lack of Self Awareness
When we first learn you can squirt, most of us practice it as much as possible. Over time we learn the triggers that make us come, and also how to make us last longer. Some of us, due to various personal reasons, totally miss out on practising, and when it comes time to get busy between the sheets, we just go for broke and it’s all over before we want it to be. In other words, some of us men become super focused on thrusting without taking notice of other sensations, and this basically leads to unexpected ejaculation. It’s like trying to open a door with a sledgehammer. You’ll open the door, but using your fine motor skills to turn the handle will yield a far better result for all involved.
5. Over-sensitivity
Some of us fellas are just very sensitive downstairs. While it’s fantastic to be sexually sensitive because it feels damn good, it can make it tough to last as long as you want. Have you ever felt out of control while having sex? This is a sign of intense sensitivity.
6. Life as we know it
This is particularly relevant to those who encountered PE later in life. By life, I really mean the stress, tiredness, anxiety, and pressure we deal with as modern citizens. Remember the hormones? When you are feeling beat up by the hard knocks of life, they can change your brain chemistry. The resulting changes in your hormone levels can make you feel less pleasure and, in many people, end your sex sessions a little too early.
7. Your relationship
This is part of ‘life’, but deserves its own point. How you and your partner treat eachother sets the psychological ‘stage’ for your sexual activities. Is your wife always busting your balls? Did she piss you off in some way?
As you can see, there is nothing to be ashamed of if you have premature ejaculation. It’s a condition caused mostly by external factors, just like stress, high blood pressure, or even depression. No need to worry about it – the best thing for you to do is find out how to treat it and move on with your life.
The last thing I’ll say is: don’t think of yourself as a ‘premature ejaculator’, even if this has been going on for a long time. It is simply a learned response, and can be unlearned!
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Good luck and feel free to contact me if you want to ask any questions. I fully respect your right to privacy and anonymity.
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